Out of necessity. I’ve been where you are. Done that, bought the T-shirt.
I’m just an ordinary guy – my mind put me through hell for decades.
I’ve been through two burn-outs and almost a nervous breakdown due to work stress and the general overwhelming pressures of 21st Century living.
To me, at the time, there wasn’t anything worse than going to bed stressed, worried, depressed, desperately sad and unhappy, knowing that it would all be the same again tomorrow.
I had what the world would call a rather unfortunate child-hood, which I later discovered set me up for stress, anxiety and depression etc. (Thank goodness it did, or this stress & unhappiness solution may never have come about)
Despite building a successful career and a life most people would give their right arms for. For 40 years I carried around 3 hidden beliefs, that I was: Stupid, Unloved and Unwanted – unworthy of a better life. Like most people I had some dysfunctional unconscious programming I didn’t even know were there.
Like many people building a life and a career, I drove myself way too hard for far too long. Decades of high pressure job roles took their toll and brought on colossal stress, then anxiety and eventually the deepest depression. Which wrecked my health too.
And, trying to hide what was really going on inside from my family (so as not to burden them) and from my boss (because I couldn’t afford to loose my job) just doubled the pressure.
Eventually, in December 2008, aged 45, I was at my wits end and I completely lost the will to live.
I just wanted to be Happy and be able to Enjoy my Life. There had to be a better way to live.
I’m an Engineer by trade (a born problem solver) with a highly analytical mind and a knack for making complicated things understandable. Somehow, I found the strength to decide not to take my own life (yes, I was that bad) that wasn’t the solution. I wasn’t going to desert my wonderful family. So I set out to find an answer to my misery, that didn’t include alcohol, drugs, medication or endless therapy I couldn’t afford. For once in my life, being a stubborn ass was a godsend.
Through my technical sales career I had been very heavily into the personal development genre and studied everything I could for 23 years. Great stuff. But none of it was helping one bit now.
In early 2009 whilst attempting to get rid of a migraine I had an accidental shift in awareness and life started to look very different. It gave me an ability to quickly see the root causes of things.
In 2010, still struggling, out of shear desperation I decided to see if I could find any meditation classes near me. Luckily I found a transcendental meditation class 25 minutes away. I contacted The Meditation Trust and signed up. I using my TM Mantra twice per day per day. Big relief.
In fact it made such a big difference to the way I felt that the same year I re-trained and became a stress reduction, mindfulness and meditation instructor. Within a few months though, I realised that it still didn’t provide the inner peace, (from up-time to bed time) I was searching for. So, back to the drawing board, AGAIN. This was not going to beat me.
I kept on searching, obsessively working on myself non-stop. 1000’s of hours of deep meditation. Studying far and wide for what turned into another 7 years. I tried anything and everything that looked like it could possibly help me. (NLP – EFT – Life Coaching – Hypnosis – Homeopathy – Reiki etc etc etc)
All good stuff, each helped in its own way, but there was something missing. Something big was missing. Because none of them brought about the (uptime-to-bedtime) inner peace, contentment and happiness I was so desperately craving. Eventually, thanks to YouTube, I started coming across Eastern Masters and their ancient wisdom. Suddenly everything started to make sense.
Once more I started studying everything I could possible find in their books, courses and video’s. Endless trial and error on myself and, in late 2017, while sitting in meditation one morning, I found the secret.
The holy grail, the E=Mc2 for inner calm, contentment and genuine longterm happiness (joy actually). I had finally discovered the root cause and the solution for all of my stress and unhappiness. I call it HAPPY ONION LIVING, the MISSING LINK that eluded me for so very long.
I now teach the insights strategies and techniques my mentors taught me. Plus the missing-link I discovered and developed to free myself, to anyone who is ready to learn how to peel away the ridiculous daily pressures of 21st Century living. So they too can create calm, happy and enjoy-able lives, full of inner peace, happiness and mental well-being.
My core belief is that if a person has information that could help another, it is our absolute duty as Human Beings to share it. And that’s what I’m offering you.
Let’s work together. We can Free you from negative thoughts, feelings and unhappiness for good. So you can just get on and Enjoy Your Life.
I look forward to hearing from you.
All the best,
Julian
